9 layoff survivor, typography and photography obsessed. Memoir BAD FIT coming in 2026 💙💛💚🩷
I’ve been fired nine times in fifteen years. Not for being bad at my job, but for being good at the wrong things. I was good at seeing problems other people wanted to ignore. Good at asking questions that made people uncomfortable. Good at holding space for ambiguity when everyone else wanted certainty by Tuesday. Good at treating design like it mattered instead of like decoration you apply after the real decisions get made. Turns out, those are excellent ways to become what companies call a...
I was in a meeting at a large financial company when I casually mentioned "testing the design with users." Before I could finish my sentence, the lead architect snapped: "No one cares about what it looks like." The room went silent. Some of my teammates jumped to my defense with a quick "not cool, man", but I stayed curious instead of defensive. I kept the conversation going because I was genuinely confused about why this suggestion had triggered such hostility. It took weeks of working...
I've watched it happen more times than I can count. A CEO or executive becomes obsessed with choosing paint colors and fabric swatches for the new office redesign, micromanaging decisions that should be left to the interior designer they just hired. It's like watching someone plan a wedding where every napkin fold becomes a referendum on their vision and taste. Except this isn't a wedding. It's a software company. I call this the CEOzilla pattern, and it's one of the most reliable red flags...
Picture this: You’re on a Zoom call during the pandemic. Your team just survived a massive layoff at a financial company. Nobody knows where design requests will come from anymore. The executive who’s supposed to lead your newly reorganized team keeps taking calls from his realtor, because he’s shopping for a beach house. Most of your team can’t afford to buy a first home. You’re all terrified about losing health insurance in the middle of a pandemic and you’ve seen a lot of colleagues just...
The avocado toast joke has become so embedded in our cultural consciousness that it's practically a cliché. You know the one: millennials and Gen Z can't afford homes because they're too busy brunching on $14 avocado toast. The stereotype has become so pervasive that I once spotted a bakery menu item cheekily labeled "The Down Payment": a wink at the very indulgence we're supposedly sacrificing our financial futures to enjoy. But here's where my story takes an unexpected turn, like...
I've been fired for speaking up. I've also regretted staying silent. After nine layoffs over the last 15 years and countless toxic work situations, I've learned that the problem isn't whether to dissent, it's how to do it without destroying yourself in the process. The Pattern You're Probably Seeing Organizations love to talk about "psychological safety" while punishing anyone who tests it. They hold workshops asking for honest feedback, then spend 50 minutes on icebreakers and claim there's...
The stereotype is so pervasive it’s become a tired joke: designers want impossible things, developers say no to everything, and both sides roll their eyes at each other across the conference table. We’ve built entire careers around this supposed incompatibility, treating the designer-developer relationship like an inevitable conflict requiring constant mediation. But what if this whole narrative is wrong? The Myth That Costs Everyone The biggest lie in product development is that designers...